Parents dating kids with disabilities

I would leave that part out of it completely..them later after you have dated a few times and feel they are the type that wouldn't turn tail and run.

Then let them meet her when/if the relationship gets to that point.

I'm referring to the parents of children with severe cases of depression or other mood disorders, ADHD, psychosis, autism, and other emotional and/or cognitive disorders.

Previous research has not done enough to educate us about the effects on parents of having a child with SN.

Just throwing this out there to see what kinds of responses I get.

Men - Would you date a woman with a special needs child? If your choice not to was based on the fact that you knew nothing of the type of disability the child had, but learned about it, would this change your decision?

But chronic illnesses are not the only type of special needs that children have.

Or why we tend to make really inappropriate remarks so often? And even if we did choose to become a special needs family through adoption, there are still plenty of reasons to be cranky – and then joke about it later. The rest of the coffee was dumped on the kitchen floor and eaten by an ecstatic child yesterday before it could be fully cleaned up. Mixed the g-tube formula, fed daughter, cleaned up, got to school on time, then listened to the neighbor complaining that her 8 year old refused to eat broccoli at dinner last night. Was up with a wide-awake child from 2am to 6am, then awakened by a phone call at am. It was the pharmacy leaving a voice mail explaining that the medication refill will cost 0 out-of-pocket. 90 minute screaming meltdown 3 times per week – and we’re overdue for one, so it’ll probably be today. While signing school papers, two kids were talking directly into each ear. The child with a disability brushed his own teeth, dressed himself and tied his shoes while his able sibling refused to brush teeth, refused to get dressed and rolled on the ground instead of putting on shoes. Had to decline a bunch of invitations to weddings and family reunions again this year. You may have seen her sneaking into the volunteer lounge for ice cream or being pushed into the cheese pit by laughing children.

I am currently in a relationship with a great man who has kids of his own.

My dilemma is that one of his children is special needs (autistic) and will likely never live independently, only possibly in a group home as a young adult in his 20s.

I love children, and am not at all put off by special challenges. But a person really has to consider what they are getting involved with when they date someone with a child, let alone a special needs child.

I would hope that the OP does NOT get flamed for asking this. If they are not up for the challenge and adventure, then they should just move on and keep looking, but if they want to be involved it is a great experiance.

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